Sexual Pleasure in Marriage Part One
Many women wonder why many husbands do know how to satisfy a woman despite all the actions they make to make themselves available whenever they ask for it, and many men also feel disturbed why their wives still make excuses whenever they have sexual relations with them.
Even though they try to satisfy them the last time they had it. The truth is, sex is more than just? go up and sink? or? enter and pour out? I mean what gives some maximum pleasure and how to satisfy a woman in bed is more than just entering and leaving a woman’s vagina.
For couples to enjoy maximum sexual pleasure there are several ways to do it. This knowledge is what is lacking in many marriages, and it causes a lot of pain, hurt, and a great disappointment for the couple. This is mostly the cause of infidelity among married people.
Like a man who responded to one of my writings in this column, many men in the middle age group quickly lost their wives from other men, who had learned and internalized the skills on how to satisfy a woman when it comes to sex. Or giving sexual pleasure to a woman. Of course, this is also the reason why some men are involved in extramarital marriages.
Why skills about how to satisfy a woman are lacking between partners are due to the fact that these skills are not innate, but must be obtained by individuals. They are not things that are born with an individual, but they may obtain through the learning process, and from the experiences gathered by the couple in the act of sexual intercourse.
Of course, it is not an easy thing to acquire this skill, just as learning another trade or learning to become an expert in the field of human business is not easy. It requires commitment, patience, understanding, time, money, and energy. This is why many people find it difficult to acquire this skill.
For some men, it is not necessary and inconceivable to begin learning the skills needed for maximum sexual pleasure. They only believe that they are naturally blessed to give sexual satisfaction to women because they get pleasure from these actions. So, they don’t even start at all, not to talk about improving skills.
Whatever they can take in the process of sexual experience, or hearsay from friends, and in public meetings, is the foundation of their sex life. No wonder they continue to wonder why there are so many problems that make them married people. Without sexual satisfaction, marriage will suffer more from other life challenges that couples will face.
Another thing we have to face in this part of the world is the fact that parents, religious organizations, to name a few, do not have formal methods to educate their children about sex acts. As many respondents have pointed out in this column and in other marital interaction forums, no father or mother has ever cared for their child to teach them skills for sexual satisfaction.
Instead, they only believe that when they get to the bridge, they will cross it somehow. They expect them to learn sex acts when they get married, after all, no parents teach them anything they know now. And the reality is, not many of our parents really know what to teach us. For many of them, sex is as confusing to us as it is to us. They have many unanswered questions that we have about them, and just as they can still get along, they believe we will also get along well regardless of whatever dissatisfaction we face.
How to Satisfy a Woman: Sexual Pleasure in Marriage Part Two
When I got married, my husband and I did not know any expertise. All we know is to lie on top of each other, and then do whatever has to be done. For me in particular, sex is something that every married couple must do whether they want it or not. The truth is, I wasn’t even told that I should enjoy it. So, as much as possible I provide it to fulfill my marriage responsibilities. And when I can, I just submit a reason to avoid it.
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But we later discovered that there are more things called sex than we know. We find that it is an action that must learn and master if sex wants to be what the Creator means. We must have skills for sex to give satisfaction. Or for a man to know how to satisfy a woman sexually. Of course, children come through whatever we do like sex and the joy of having children fill the gap for sexual pleasure. But, it only lasted for a while, after that, we became dissatisfied.
At this point, I must say that there is more sex with your partner than having children. For God’s glory, I had my last baby almost fifteen years ago, and today, my two children are outside our home, most of the time at school, and we are both alone at home. So, if sex is only for procreation, I want to know what we will both do now. And, if sex is still something for me to do, I will now face a lot of frustration.
Skills for sexual pleasure or how to satisfy a woman and/ or a man include the following:
1. Understanding the most important sex organs of men and women. For a woman, that is the mind, while for a man it is a penis. Both must be done and maintained if both will produce maximum satisfaction for the couple.
2. Every man must know what gives the woman maximum sexual pleasure. Not only enough to get up and sink into him; You must know how to attack for the best effect. Does this come from reading in general about the composition of a woman’s sexual body and personally learning how your wife responds to everything you do to her during sex? This should not leave to men, women also have to do the same. Exploration of the body for men and women must be studied if the satisfaction required is obtained.
3. Get to try various sex positions with your partner to find out which one will give you sexual satisfaction.
4. Add romance to your daily activities. Many men only remember that they have a wife when they want sex. Romance must be an integral part of your marriage. Do the things you used to do before marriage: say good things to each other, tickle each other, play with each other, so to walk together from time to time, send messages of love to each other, buy gifts for each other (no need for expensive items), etc. Here are some things that need to obtain if sexual pleasure will be within your reach as a married couple.
Women’s orgasm during sexual relations
One of the most common myths about the female orgasm is that women should only reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse.
This is clearly not true but it is a myth that has caused us to take for granted the sexual needs of women for a long time.
This myth actually began with Sigmund Freud, the developer of psychoanalysis, who had admitted that women could easily reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation. Freud considered this type of stimulation as a teenager and believed that it was important for women to become more sexually mature by focusing solely on vaginal stimulation to reach orgasm.
The problem is that the vagina is not designing for orgasm. For example, it does not have concentrated nerve endings found in the clitoris or on the head of the penis.
As a result of Freud’s determination, women who cannot reach orgasm through sex are considering to have several types of psychological disorders. All kinds of methods are designing in an effort to free women from their dependence on the clitoris for sexual pleasure.
Only in the past few decades has society begun to speak openly about women’s rights to enjoy sex and achieve orgasm in whatever way works for them. Another common myth about the female orgasm is that only woman pretends to orgasm.
Even though this book is about female orgasm, I think it’s important for men and women to realize that orgasm will not occur during every sexual encounter. About one-fifth of the men claimed that they had faked orgasms with their partners. The reason they pretend to be the same as women: they don’t want their partners to be disappointed.
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Orgasms don’t always come easily in a partnership. Of course, when we masturbate we may get down at any time because we know our bodies and we know what works. Our sexual partners must learn these things from time to time and, most importantly, with our help.
Again, faking an orgasm is not the answer for both sexes. It only complicates matters and prevents both partners from truly fulfilling sexual relations.
A new sexual revolution
Apart from the sexual revolution in the 1960s, the fact is, many Nigerians still feel that sex is a taboo. Everyone has different sexual preferences and even though there are people who are very vocal about their needs in bed. There are still others who choose to get quiet because they are afraid of being called vulgar.
Researchers now say that another sexual revolution is underway; as evidenced by the high ranking of shows that have sex-related content. The problem of oral sex is now seeing from a new perspective. Since more and more teenagers no longer consider it disgusting. The trend shows that sex has moved beyond the boundaries of relationships, marriage or how to satisfy a woman.
With knowledge about teen sex, how many parents care to educate their children about the pros (if any) and the cons of early sexual activity? Studies show that parents prefer to pretend that their children do not know what sex is and talk about it will make them more curious, which can lead to experimentation.
But this is definitely not the problem. Children can now access sites that display couples who have direct sex. Or direct sex shows with hot models as stars. No, today’s teenagers are no longer innocent as we want them to be. Despite the many precautions that parents take to prevent their children from having sexy chat rooms and clubs. Having sex is not enough.
Children still need sex education from their parents. They need to know that they are not the only ones who experience things like passion or even masturbation. Children may get confused and so that they are properly guided by their social roles; parents still have the biggest part of it.
I still believe that the biggest problem with teenagers lies in the fact that technically, they are still children. Biologically, teenage girls are not ready to give birth to healthy children. In addition, the spread of sexually transmitted diseases can easily affect adolescents; since most of them refuse to take lessons taught in sexual education.
People blame teen pregnancy for the proliferation of sex-related media and easy access to pornographic sites. It is true that some studies have found a connection between early sexual experiments and sexual innuendo on TV and film. But hey, you can’t blame everything on the media.
Right, media is messy with so much sex-related content but still, you are responsible for your children. Sex stars from the camera to the camera don’t tell your children to go out; have sex with the next girl they see. Allowing your children not to educate and clueless about this topic when everyone talks can only make them more curious. If it’s not as close as you are, and the cycle continues.
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In conclusion, every man should know how to satisfy a woman in bed so as to strengthen their love relationship. Likewise, every woman should be available to her husband whenever he needs sex. Finally, our children should about sex education in order to prevent unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.